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“Relationships,” not love affairs, are what [contemporary people] have. Love suggests something wonderful, exciting, positive and firmly seated in the passions. A relationship is gray, amorphous, suggestive of a project, without a given content, and tentative. You work at a relationship, whereas love takes care of itself. In a relationship, the difficulties come first, and there is a search for common grounds. Love presents illusions of perfection to the imagination and is forgetful to all the natural fissures in human connection… Selves, of course, have no relation to anything but themselves, and this is why “communication” is their problem… Selves want to be wholes, but have lately also taking to longing to be parts. This is the reason why conversation about relationships remains so vacuous, abstract, and unprogramatic, with its whole content stored in a bottle labeled “commitment.” It is also why there is so much talk about phenomena like “bonding.” In the absence of any connectedness in their souls, human beings seek reassurance in fruitless analogy to mechanisms found in brutes." - Allan Bloom

Thanks to Tyler J. Brown



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